Unfinished Conversation is a story of profound grief and the journey to healing that followed. Based on a journal Robert Lesoine kept during the two years following the suicide of his best friend, combined with Marilynne Chöphel’s work with survivors of trauma Unfinished Conversation offers readers a self-directed journey to healing based on mindful awareness and sound clinical practices.
The tools and techniques in Unfinished Conversation will help readers release past trauma, affirm survivors’ emotions, and honor their relationship with their lost loved one, so they can find greater perspective, meaning, and well-being in their lives.
During the two years following the suicide of his best friend, Robert Lesoine kept a journal as he healed from his profound loss. This writing, combined with mindfulness and meditation practice, helped him recapture his joy and transform his grief into a new relationship with his lost friend. In Unfinished Convesations Robert’s story is combined with proven tools and techniques from trauma specialist Marilynne Chöphel, offering surviors effective means to face thier own experinece and ope to the potential for healing. Anyone, suffering from loss can take this journey past trauma to find greater perspective, meaning and well-being in their lives.
With a vulnerable and generous heart, Robert Lesoine shares the mindset and heart-sets that contribute to healing in the aftermath of a loved one’s suicide. Written in compassionate and practical language, this book invites you into a journey of restoration, reminding you that you can still laugh, love, and come full circle with your departed loved one.—Reverend Michael Beckwith, Spiritual Liberation
Suicide is a pain that never quite disappears. This eloquent book is a personal companion for those left behind, a friend nudging us forward with compassion and wisdom to see below, behind, and beyond the limitations of our current understanding. Highly recommended for anyone who wishes to keep the heart open after losing a loved on in this way.—Christopher Germer, Phd, The Mindful Path to Self-Compassion
Expertly woven into the raw feelings expressed in the journaling of Lesoine’s loss are the tools and techniques of Marilynne Chöphel that will help to understand, heighten, experience and refine these emotions. The authors claim this journey will help anyone left after a suicide find greater perspective, meaning, and well-being in their lives. I agree without reservation…The willingness of Lesoine to share his feelings in such an honest and sometimes vulnerable manner disarmed me. I connected with experience in a way that made differences in vocation, stage of life, or spiritual views irrelevant…[Through his] shared spiritual experiences—though different than my own—that I was able to connect so deeply with the book…Unfinished Conversation: Healing from Suicide and Loss is a book that I will use in my own clinical practice and one that I will recommend to friends and family. The book helps to create some understanding out of an experience that is largely devoid of it. Most importantly, the book helps to believe that there really is hope that it gets better.—American Association of Suicidology
Write as if your loved one is in front of you, hearing everything you are saying. Make it real. The most important part of what you will be doing is having an honest conversation, the one you didn’t have a chance to finish. Whatever helps you to have this conversation, whether it’s more emotion or coming from a place of calm, will be valuable.
Some of your writing may even take the form of interactive dialogues between you and your loved one. Write what you have to say, then listen for a response and write it, whatever it is. You will find it easier than you think to capture the voice of the person you lost. Try it. The benefit that you will gain in finishing your particular conversation will go far beyond what you can imagine.
Healing and grieving take time. So make a personal commitment to continue this process for as long as it takes. Keep the communication between you and the departed open until you have expressed whatever has been bottled up inside since the suicide, whether that was days, months, or even years ago. I suggest that you continue your writing process until you attain some sense of clarity, release, and resolution.